What I'm saying, indirectly, is that we justify where we are in our lives in our outlook about the world, and boy, does that make talking about ostensibly neutral things personal. That's why the weather becomes so inspiring on the elevator, or pets seem to have the magical glow of humans.
Why do we do it?
At times, straight up perseverance is a good trait. Other times, though, you might bang your head against a wall and swear up and down that it is helping you and you might get angry with the people who point it out.
There's a lot of pressure to identify with a school of thought out there, i.e. a category, and anti-identification may prove the most pervasive type.
It is also tremendously hard to reveal your actual true thoughts to people that you don't feel completely safe with.
At times it may seem best to only tell people what they want to hear, or what you think they want to hear. It may seem comforting.
As easy as it may be to reverse the above statement, and try to stick to a goal of 100% honesty, it is probably harder to know where to actually draw the line. Empathy doesn't necessarily spring from honesty all the time, and people need some empathy to feel comfortable talking in the first place.
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