tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459188616438330122.post7945179476095697394..comments2023-11-02T08:44:47.481-04:00Comments on Alcohol Free: Pornography and Faking OrgasmUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459188616438330122.post-380621228909697852011-04-25T14:08:51.901-04:002011-04-25T14:08:51.901-04:00As a woman, I can absolutely tell whether a man ha...As a woman, I can absolutely tell whether a man has been consistently watching pornography. How, you ask? Because consumers of porn mimic behavior exhibited by male porn performers. In American smut, performers concentrate on the(questionable) visual appeal of their actions rather than on each others' pleasure. One has to only compare amateur videos to those produced by mainstream companies to see that it is true. I can also compare sexual behavior of men who have been raised on the homegrown smutty pictures to those who grew up in different countries, and consequently watched different porn. For instance: men who grew up in the US consistently request anal sex, while those who grew up in Japan, do not. Why is that? Because anal sex among straight couples is not nearly as ubiquitous in mainstream Japanese porn as it is in American. Pornography is just about our only chance to see other people engage in sexual activity, so of course if something is consistently done in porn, we assume that it is a widespread practice. <br /><br />Mr. Anonymous clearly imagines the women quoted by blogger to be vanilla, borderline asexual creatures eager to find any excuse to avoid the dreaded unorthodox sexual acts. But oh, how wrong he is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459188616438330122.post-56949640811690126382011-04-24T23:12:21.634-04:002011-04-24T23:12:21.634-04:00OK. As a disclaimer, let me just say that I don...OK. As a disclaimer, let me just say that I don't think the women you spoke with weren't telling the truth or that you should have tried to verify what they were saying. You know them, I don't.<br /><br />My point is this: some women use this line (or something similar) as a rationalization of their reluctance or refusal to go along with some sexual requests or demands of their partners. With sex, as with everything else, we all have things we like to do and things we don't really like doing (or having done to us) all that much. Preferences. Now if a partner asks us to do something we don't like to do and we consistently refuse simply because we don't like to do it, well, that makes us kind of selfish. Any voluntary relationship, no matter how short-lived, is an exchange, and no side can reasonably expect to not ever have to do anything they don't like.<br /><br />Of course no one likes to think of themselves as selfish. So if we are, in fact, being selfish, most of the time we try to somehow rationalize it. I won't do that, but not because I don't want to, but because his requests are ridiculous, and the reason his requests are ridiculous is because he's watching porn all the time, and we all know watching porn turns men into misogynous pigs. Voila! It's a perfect excuse, really. I mean, no one in their right mind will speak up in defense of pornography.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459188616438330122.post-83786142490336461892011-04-22T22:05:54.491-04:002011-04-22T22:05:54.491-04:00yeah, i took them for their word.yeah, i took them for their word.hmmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00273970169565217269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459188616438330122.post-11660194730513835122011-04-20T01:36:36.303-04:002011-04-20T01:36:36.303-04:00"Yesterday I spoke with two women who said th..."Yesterday I spoke with two women who said they could easily tell if the man they were sleeping with was a consistent pornography user by the way he acted [in bed]. I think that's pretty damning, and interesting, too."<br /><br />I gotta ask: other than the fact that they say so, do you have any reasons to think that what they're saying is true? (i.e. that they actually <i>can</i> accurately tell). Or are you just taking their word for it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com